I think it's a blend of the two. I've had similar conversations with Mrs. WI.

If I two "Mrs. WI's" standing in front of me...one rail thin and the other a full-figured curvy lady...I'd choose the full figured lady because that's the kind of body I'm attracted to. Personality is one of the factors, but there is a physical one too. Everything in moderation.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.