Caution: Baby talk!
 

Well with so many new and expectant Mums and Dads on the site, I thought it might be an idea to start up a 'baby talk' thread, so that we can keep it all in one place and away from all the people who aren't as interested in it as us - which is why I've put it in 'Advice' and not 'General Chat'.

Feel free to share the joys, triumphs, fears and doubts that parenthood brings, as well as any tips you have, or questions. I doubt that between us, there's no experience of childbirth/ childrearing we haven't had, as well as being able to recommend products/ techniques that have helped during pregnancy, breastfeeding, weaning, bottle feeding, sleepless nights etc.

To start off, I have to share that "Little Moo" rolled over from back to front for the first time ever while we were on holiday last week! He's growing up so fast!

I remember how exciting it was when my guys rolled over. Fun times ahead!

They do grow up WAY too fast!!! Take lots of pictures! Remember every precious thing. My youngest is 20 but I still have vivid memories of breast feeding her, her tiny hand on my breast and she looked up at me and smiled. It was so sweet. :)

As they grow the best advice I ever got and I pass on is to talk 'with' them not 'at' them. Listen to what they have to say, they will both amaze and amuse you with the things they come out with.

When my son Ryan was about 4 he ran into the bathroom cause he had to, you know, and I had just gotten out of the shower, and he saw me and commented how " daddy was all naked-up".

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not exactly "baby talk" but........

I am so nervous and worried over so many things....is my kid going to be "normal", healthy, happy...most of all, I'm worried over bringing a little ME into the world :rolleyes:

My boyfriend and I looked at condos today. I have the option of either moving back to TN or staying here. Honestly, I'd be better off going back to TN because I have a house there...but I'm away from him :sad: I have to try to take things one day at a time, because I'm already feeling so overwhelmed and I'm only two months along.

((((Cherrypie))))))

My best advice to you is this: pregnancy gets easier around the 2nd trimester - you'll be less tired and less neurotic, plus other people actually only start treating you like you're actually pregnant once they can see it (annoyingly, because you feel like you want to be treated with kid gloves at this stage and later you'll feel back to your old self again).

I got all my worrying about the birth over with early on, so by the time I was close to giving birth I was pretty accepting of all the possibilities and the thought of going into hospital etc. I know friends who didn't let themselves think about it until a fortnight before, and then panicked. I wouldn't recommend that approach as getting your head right makes the whole experience so much better.

As for 'will my baby be normal'? Every mother worries about that but the stats say that 97% of babies in the UK are born completely normal (I imagine the figures are very similar for the US too) so don't get too terrified by the 'doing x when you're pregnant will cause your baby to be y' but be sensible - give up smoking if you do, limit alcohol to a small amount on special occasions, don't do recreational drugs and eat healthily. You can't do more than that at this stage.

The fact that you're worrying about these things, is the first sign that you're going to be an excellent Mother, but try to keep things in perspective.

Is it not an option for him to move with you? I know that is a hard decision but if you do move my advised is think about what is best for you and your baby. oh congrats by the way. And to be honest with you it is not that difficult to be away from someone that you love when your pregnant. This is from experience. I walked out on my ex husband (due to his cheating) when I was 3 weeks pregnant and with an 18 month old in tow also. I was so upset but worrying if I had the flu and taking care of a toddler kept my mind at peace. Then when I really found out I was pregnant well I was so caught up in that so it made it easier because I wasn't always wondering where he was or what he was doing. I know my situation is diffrent than yours but I would at least talk with him about it. Moving that is.

Again...my best advise is to do what is best for you and the baby.

And also even though things are fine now...get custody papers as soon as you can. Just in case something happens later on. Working at the PD I see alot of boyfriend/girlfriend situation and that end up spliting after they have the kid. It then gets ugly and hateful instead of what is best for the kid.

But most of all enjoy it. Make memories. And treat yourself like a queen for the next nine months.

Natalie

Thanks lou and tx....

I am trying to decide what kind of birth to have at this point...natural, water, etc. Water birth seems very plausible to me..But I'm not stressing over it I guess :sad: lol

At this point, it is not an option for my boyfriend to move because of his job. He works on a boat here and has a great salary...so if I go to TN I will be alone until August when his contract runs out and he can get a job in TN. That's all that stops us from both packing up and moving.

I am in such a bitchy mood tonight. I'm ready to rip heads off and toss 'em aside :yikes: I hate feeling this way too, especially since I really have no reason to feel like this. :huh:

Just remember Cherrypie, that you may not get all that much choice on what kind of birth you have in the end. I wanted to be in the water but was induced and warned that I couldn't have a water birth because my waters might need to be broken, I might need an IV etc. However in the end, I didn't need any of those things, but my labour was so damned quick they wouldn't have had time to fill the pool up and in the end I needed an episiotomy so I'd have been hauled out of the water at that point anyway!

While I was pregnant, I had 5 other pregnant friends: only two of us gave birth naturally, one was an elective casear and the other 3 were emergency sections. With the exception of the friend who elected to have a section, the rest of us all were really hoping to give birth naturally without epidurals etc.

My advice, is to get your head around the fact that you're going to have to be flexible and that things might not go your way. That way, if it all goes awry from your birth plan you won't be left feeling totally out of control and traumatised by your experience and remember that just because some aspects of your birth plan don't go the way you want, doesn't mean they all have to. Skin to skin contact, for example is usually achievable, no matter what the circumstances and is really helpful in bonding and establishing breastfeeding.

Thanks Loulabelle. I'm trying to come to terms with not being in control. Sadly I'm one of those girls that must have control over everything in her life...but I realize this is one thing that I probably wont have control over. Oh well. Tub of water, hospital bed, front seat of SUV it's all the same I guess :p LOL

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I think I found the perfect apartment for us today. It's 3 bedroom, 1.5 bath, 1400 square feet. We are used to having our space..and we have tons of stuff. I went and took a tour of the place today. It's very nice, it has good security which I like. If I'm going to be living in New Orleans by myself most of the time I think it's a necessary "luxury" to live in a gated community with 24 hour security. Maybe I'm being paranoid but better safe than sorry I say.

It's sad but if we are approved (and I'm positive we will be) for this apartment my boyfriend wont even see it until next weekend and wont be able to sign the lease until then. Not that it matters. But I feel like I am doing this all alone.

Just got this in my email today.......thought I would share. :)

Before I was a Mom
I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.

Before I was a Mom - I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind and my thoughts.
I slept all night.

Before I was a Mom
I never held down a screaming child so doctors could do tests.
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a Mom
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to
put them down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I
couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much.
I never knew I would love being a Mom.

Before I was a Mom -
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.
I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so
important and happy.

Before I was a Mom -
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every
10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache,
the wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mom.

Oh Soda, that made me cry!

*sniff sniff* darn these pregnancy hormones!

I found all of you babysitters

That sleeping one would be me.

Thanks Lilith.

But if they sat on the baby wouldn't they squish them?