Caution: Baby talk!
 

Well with so many new and expectant Mums and Dads on the site, I thought it might be an idea to start up a 'baby talk' thread, so that we can keep it all in one place and away from all the people who aren't as interested in it as us - which is why I've put it in 'Advice' and not 'General Chat'.

Feel free to share the joys, triumphs, fears and doubts that parenthood brings, as well as any tips you have, or questions. I doubt that between us, there's no experience of childbirth/ childrearing we haven't had, as well as being able to recommend products/ techniques that have helped during pregnancy, breastfeeding, weaning, bottle feeding, sleepless nights etc.

To start off, I have to share that "Little Moo" rolled over from back to front for the first time ever while we were on holiday last week! He's growing up so fast!

I remember how exciting it was when my guys rolled over. Fun times ahead!

They do grow up WAY too fast!!! Take lots of pictures! Remember every precious thing. My youngest is 20 but I still have vivid memories of breast feeding her, her tiny hand on my breast and she looked up at me and smiled. It was so sweet. :)

As they grow the best advice I ever got and I pass on is to talk 'with' them not 'at' them. Listen to what they have to say, they will both amaze and amuse you with the things they come out with.

When my son Ryan was about 4 he ran into the bathroom cause he had to, you know, and I had just gotten out of the shower, and he saw me and commented how " daddy was all naked-up".

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not exactly "baby talk" but........

I am so nervous and worried over so many things....is my kid going to be "normal", healthy, happy...most of all, I'm worried over bringing a little ME into the world :rolleyes:

My boyfriend and I looked at condos today. I have the option of either moving back to TN or staying here. Honestly, I'd be better off going back to TN because I have a house there...but I'm away from him :sad: I have to try to take things one day at a time, because I'm already feeling so overwhelmed and I'm only two months along.

((((Cherrypie))))))

My best advice to you is this: pregnancy gets easier around the 2nd trimester - you'll be less tired and less neurotic, plus other people actually only start treating you like you're actually pregnant once they can see it (annoyingly, because you feel like you want to be treated with kid gloves at this stage and later you'll feel back to your old self again).

I got all my worrying about the birth over with early on, so by the time I was close to giving birth I was pretty accepting of all the possibilities and the thought of going into hospital etc. I know friends who didn't let themselves think about it until a fortnight before, and then panicked. I wouldn't recommend that approach as getting your head right makes the whole experience so much better.

As for 'will my baby be normal'? Every mother worries about that but the stats say that 97% of babies in the UK are born completely normal (I imagine the figures are very similar for the US too) so don't get too terrified by the 'doing x when you're pregnant will cause your baby to be y' but be sensible - give up smoking if you do, limit alcohol to a small amount on special occasions, don't do recreational drugs and eat healthily. You can't do more than that at this stage.

The fact that you're worrying about these things, is the first sign that you're going to be an excellent Mother, but try to keep things in perspective.

Is it not an option for him to move with you? I know that is a hard decision but if you do move my advised is think about what is best for you and your baby. oh congrats by the way. And to be honest with you it is not that difficult to be away from someone that you love when your pregnant. This is from experience. I walked out on my ex husband (due to his cheating) when I was 3 weeks pregnant and with an 18 month old in tow also. I was so upset but worrying if I had the flu and taking care of a toddler kept my mind at peace. Then when I really found out I was pregnant well I was so caught up in that so it made it easier because I wasn't always wondering where he was or what he was doing. I know my situation is diffrent than yours but I would at least talk with him about it. Moving that is.

Again...my best advise is to do what is best for you and the baby.

And also even though things are fine now...get custody papers as soon as you can. Just in case something happens later on. Working at the PD I see alot of boyfriend/girlfriend situation and that end up spliting after they have the kid. It then gets ugly and hateful instead of what is best for the kid.

But most of all enjoy it. Make memories. And treat yourself like a queen for the next nine months.

Natalie

Thanks lou and tx....

I am trying to decide what kind of birth to have at this point...natural, water, etc. Water birth seems very plausible to me..But I'm not stressing over it I guess :sad: lol

At this point, it is not an option for my boyfriend to move because of his job. He works on a boat here and has a great salary...so if I go to TN I will be alone until August when his contract runs out and he can get a job in TN. That's all that stops us from both packing up and moving.

I am in such a bitchy mood tonight. I'm ready to rip heads off and toss 'em aside :yikes: I hate feeling this way too, especially since I really have no reason to feel like this. :huh:

Just remember Cherrypie, that you may not get all that much choice on what kind of birth you have in the end. I wanted to be in the water but was induced and warned that I couldn't have a water birth because my waters might need to be broken, I might need an IV etc. However in the end, I didn't need any of those things, but my labour was so damned quick they wouldn't have had time to fill the pool up and in the end I needed an episiotomy so I'd have been hauled out of the water at that point anyway!

While I was pregnant, I had 5 other pregnant friends: only two of us gave birth naturally, one was an elective casear and the other 3 were emergency sections. With the exception of the friend who elected to have a section, the rest of us all were really hoping to give birth naturally without epidurals etc.

My advice, is to get your head around the fact that you're going to have to be flexible and that things might not go your way. That way, if it all goes awry from your birth plan you won't be left feeling totally out of control and traumatised by your experience and remember that just because some aspects of your birth plan don't go the way you want, doesn't mean they all have to. Skin to skin contact, for example is usually achievable, no matter what the circumstances and is really helpful in bonding and establishing breastfeeding.

Thanks Loulabelle. I'm trying to come to terms with not being in control. Sadly I'm one of those girls that must have control over everything in her life...but I realize this is one thing that I probably wont have control over. Oh well. Tub of water, hospital bed, front seat of SUV it's all the same I guess :p LOL

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I think I found the perfect apartment for us today. It's 3 bedroom, 1.5 bath, 1400 square feet. We are used to having our space..and we have tons of stuff. I went and took a tour of the place today. It's very nice, it has good security which I like. If I'm going to be living in New Orleans by myself most of the time I think it's a necessary "luxury" to live in a gated community with 24 hour security. Maybe I'm being paranoid but better safe than sorry I say.

It's sad but if we are approved (and I'm positive we will be) for this apartment my boyfriend wont even see it until next weekend and wont be able to sign the lease until then. Not that it matters. But I feel like I am doing this all alone.

Just got this in my email today.......thought I would share. :)

Before I was a Mom
I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.

Before I was a Mom - I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind and my thoughts.
I slept all night.

Before I was a Mom
I never held down a screaming child so doctors could do tests.
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a Mom
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to
put them down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I
couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much.
I never knew I would love being a Mom.

Before I was a Mom -
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.
I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so
important and happy.

Before I was a Mom -
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every
10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache,
the wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mom.

Oh Soda, that made me cry!

*sniff sniff* darn these pregnancy hormones!

I found all of you babysitters

That sleeping one would be me.

Thanks Lilith.

But if they sat on the baby wouldn't they squish them?

Soda that was really sweet.... I am all teary now

Oh my I never saw this thread before..
I am a mum of a 3 month old, and my it still feels like that we brought Mikayla home yesturday next thing we will know she will be a yr old.. oh fun times ahead.. I so wish I could show you all a pic of here. I am going overborad with photos I think I am taking like 50 a day I am not obsessed though :)

I just love seeing my baby. Her 1st oficila smile was about a month ago, and she has already started teething, putting her tiny little finger on her bottle when she is being fed watching t.v, geting very clingy...
I could go on but enough for now, before I cry some more thinking about how small she is...

That's because it's new mikaylasmummy! :D

I've been introducing my little one to world of solid foods for the last couple of weeks (yes I know he's not yet six months but there was no way he was going to wait that long - he was getting increasinly grizzly and dissatisfied with the 'all milk' diet).

I was really scared about starting it, since his father is a massively fussy eater and I was worried it might somehow run in the family, however so far he's done so well and there's been nothing that he's really hated.

Surprising successes have included last night's supper: spinach mixed with banana (something my health visitor recommended) which was bright green in colour but tasted entirely like banana and not at all like spinach! As long as I can get some iron rich food in him somehow, I'm more than happy to keep disguising the taste of it with fruit for as long as necessary!

Had the discussion with my mom a few times about what I was like as a baby and she told me that the mixed nanas and spinach was my absolute favorite. :thumb:

I will have to remember mixed banana and spinach. Someone else told me that I could crush up cereal (like chex) really finely and add it to his/her milk later on when they started getting fussy and that would help.

Ummm cherry, I think they mean baby food rice cereal can be added to a milk bottle later.

I dont know, he said chex. lol

I thought it was a little weird but I think he meant when they were much older than that, like 2 or so. He said he tried it with his son and it worked. But, like I said, that's just what I was told.

Hope it's OK for Dads to post, too...
 

Yes, Lil's got it right. at some point it may be necessary as the baby won't be satisfied with just milk/formula. It also helps them to sleep through the night.

i did that with mine...the baby cereal, not the cereal cereal ... and when they were little little, not 2 years old little. my kids were off the ba by two, i was a ba-ba nazi. NO BA FOR YOU! :p anyway, just a pinch is all it takes to get that extra hour or two of sleep.


today at the grocers
the boy: santa is like super man!
me: yup! he's a good guy! plus he wears red!
the boy: noooooo...he's 'tend.
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Rabbit, of course it's OK for Dads to post too! We are equal opportunists around here!!!

It's just that in general women tend to be more interested and most men would rather not hear about the harsh realities of childbirth etc!

WYNDHY: sorry hun I do not get it, please don't laugh at me... lol

Mikayla has been sleeping most of the day last night she went to sleep at about 8pm woke up at 4am for a change and feed went straight back to sleep, then woke at 11 same thing and went to sleep woke up at 6pm same thing and now she is asleep again...

Oh my is this normal for a 3 month old to sleep so much? I feel like I am missing out on spending her baby days with her

MM, I think babies do sleep a lot. Just wait till she turns 2-3. You'll be wishing she slept more :rofl:

I go to the doctor on Friday for my checkup and my man is coming in town that day too. Woohoo!! He's going to sign the lease and then I guess it'll be mostly up to me to pack us up and have us moved :(

if i remember correctly, a 3 month old should sleep about 15 hours a day, give or take. that's not to say some days won't be more. my kids would eat like horses for a week, then sleep tons for a week and the next thing i knew, their clothes were too small. growth spurt. tell your pediatrician if you're concerned.

Someone please tell me these mood swings get better. I totally need a hug right now, but I need a chill pill first. lol

It started earlier with my cousin's girlfriend talking about how when SHE gets pregnant she's going to do this and she's going to do that and I should be doing this and blah blah fucking blah. I told her that when she got pregnant THEN she could come and give me advice and until then, I wouldn't be getting my advice from HER :argue: so she left and my cousin got mad.
Then I apologized and he got over, and we decided to play some PS2 and he kept beating me at our racing game... Which made me mad again :shrug:

I realized what a twat I was being about the whole situation, and what I had to be thankful for, and my mood considerably changed for the better. But then I started thinking about my boyfriend and how often I DON'T get to see him, and how I'm going to have to basically swing the move without him and I broke down and started crying.

All the while my cousin is trying his best to console me without making it worse and getting more frustrated by the second :banghead: so I left and drove around for a little while.....which was probably not the smartest move but it made me feel better...

:wobbly:

Sorry for that, I'm sure it was hard to follow..

The thing that I can never understand is that people who do not have kids themselves do not understand what it's like yeah they may babysit for there friends but it's not the same as having them yourselves.
When my friends and even family do this to me I just politly agree, saying yes thankyou, good idea, but never do it, at the end of the day only you know what is right for you baby and no-one else. be strong things will get better.
Yoy have no reason to feel bad about how you spoke to your friend I have spoken to my mum like that and she kinda back off now she alot better with Mikayla and how I raise her..
Good Luck, if you even need to chat pm me

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A co-worker had tears running down her face when I said I'd really like to have no TV in my house when/if I had kids. :)

She made me stop talking when I mentioned cloth diapers. She was finding it hard to breathe through her howls of laughter. :shrug:

mikaylasmummy - you are so right. good for you for not letting other people get to you. I get sick of people asking 'Have I tried X' when it's so blinkin' obvious it was the very first thing I tried!

Steph - Just so you know, I use cloth diapers (and have since his cord came off the first week) and hardly have the TV on now as it distracts Little Moo from feeding and making good eye contact with me during social time. It also distracts ME from playing with him or getting on with other important jobs such as making baby food etc. so don't listen to colleagues who haven't managed it.

If you want to do it that way, then you bloody do it. Other people undermining you before you even start is far more detrimental to your success than the supposed hassle of sticking some diapers in the washing machine every other day!

Once upon a time there was no TV and diapers had to be soaked, boiled, mangled and hung out to dry, then pinned on to the baby (so to speak). All that's gone now and if people can't handle another load of laundry a day and some velcro, then they've got bigger problems than that ahead.

Why is it people seem to want new mothers to fail? I say, if you can't handle cloth nappies/breast feeding/whatever but you've at least tried it, then that's absolutely fine, but if you can you should do so and not be put off by other people.

There's loads of help out there for mothers who struggle, but for mothers who are successful, all you get told is that 'It won't last forever' or that 'Oooh, he's going to be a horrible teenager' and never 'Well done you. Not many women manage it, but you have'. I work bloody hard for my little one, and I've accepted now that I'm not going to get any recognition for it, other than the fact that he'll be a healthy child from the breastfeeding and there'll be a TON fewer nappies in my local landfill this year thanks to us.

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Right now, all I have to say is that I am sick and tired of being sick and tired!

Morning sickness?! Bah! Try ALL day sickness. Poor Mayhem can't even eat around me, otherwise I feel like I am going to blow chunks.

((((((((((((((((Lizz))))))))))))))))))))) :x:

Lizz, so sorry you feel yucky. I know it sucks.

Mrs Rabbit tried some herbal remedies and they did help. check out your local vitamin store and see what they recommend...but FIRST make sure it is OK to take them with baby and all!!!!!

The only thing that helps my morning sickess is crackers and, weird as it is, popsicles.

As for the tiredness thing.....the only remedy for that is a nap.

sodaklostsoul - that made me cry. Currently our papers our filled with no news of a little 3 year old girl who's been snatched while on holiday with her parents in Portugal. I cry everytime I see a news report on it.

((((((((((((((Lizz)))))))))))))))) remember it will get better sweetie.

Cherrypie7788 - pospsicles worked for me too. That and summer fruits like strawberries, grapes and raspberries.